5 Things You Should Never Say To Your Kids…
It is obvious that parenting is a little-complicated affair to handle. Meticulous parenting is quintessential for upbringing the children. Kids sometimes get on your nerves and you rebuke and poke them for not listening to you. Fair enough, right? That is actually monotonous too. Being a parent, you should always know that some things you say to your children will be imprinted on them forever. But there are several fallacies and cliché things that are inappropriate to say to kids as it might really affect their well-being. Here are some of the things you should never say to your kids…
- Boys don’t cry
Why is this gender stereotypical perspective since childhood? Boys do have emotions and they do have rights to express them. Parents expect their sons to be stoic and powerful. By letting this, kids might subdue their feelings and they won’t come up straight any longer. “Boys don’t cry” and “Be a Man” are such phrases that lead to their suppression of emotions. It means they are not allowed to experience their fear or sadness.
- Boys/Girls don’t do that
Children are very gullible and whatever you say, it does affect them. Gender bias is one such case where they take it to heart and impart it lifelong till they become husbands or wives. Boys are always taught not to cook or do laundry. Actually, why can’t they? Why can’t there be a role-reversal? This type of fallacy will probably affect your kids later on. Never plant a seed in the kid’s mind that it his/her duty. Let them explore the extent and be what they want to be and how they want to be!
- Learn from your brother/sister
If you have siblings, you might definitely connect with this situation. A Comparison is not at all healthy for the kids. If you want your kids to be like her brother/sister, then you are taking his/her individuality. An animosity arises between the siblings due to the comparison. Every kid has a special talent and you should be responsible for bringing out the good in him/her.The comparison is not the solution. What if the kid is brighter than his/her sibling?
- I wish you were never born
“I wish you were never born” is really a maddening expression by parents. We know your kids get on your nerves and in the heat of the moment you spell out in a negative manner. But you can’t take your words back, right? How much your kid be nerve-racking, the words you utter is like a sword to them. They easily get affected by your words and engrave in their mind. If you question their existence, self-loathing evolves in their mind and the same question they instill in themselves.
- It’s not the way you do it, let me show you
Never degrade or debase your children for the work they’ve done. Mistakes are the stepping stone to success. Let them make a mistake and learn from that mistake. If you interrupt him/her by showing the way they should do, they will never explore the things they want to and they feel they are incapable of doing things alone. This will literally shatter their confidence. By making mistakes, they will be conscious of what is right and what is wrong.
“Be the parents who are responsible for their kid’s success, but not the parents who are responsible for their failure”.